Karl
Augustine, Fri Dec 9th
Surviving divorce can be a valid fear if you're
contemplatinggetting a divorce. In order to ensure surviving divorce,
youshould first understand that your divorce decision shouldn't
betaken lightly. Ensuring that you'll be surviving divorce can
becomforting and can influence your path as you consider yourreasons
for divorce and take the emotional plunge into actuallygoing through
with it.
Its tough enough to think about how your immediate
life will beimpacted by getting a divorce let alone thinking about
divorcefrom an aspect of "the aftermath" of divorce.
You may beconsidering a variety of things in the short term includingliving
arrangements, spouse's schedules, attorneys, kids,property, etc.
Its tough to plan so you can really ensure thatyou'll be surviving
divorce once its finally over with.
Surviving divorce, just like deciding to divorce,
is aboutseparating emotion from logic and making sure you think
aboutthe past, present and future. Of course, how you plan forsurviving
divorce, will differ from others in some respects, butthere are
some common themes to think about that should ensureyou will be
successful surviving divorce.
The most common things to think about when you
want to besuccessful surviving divorce are self-evident and basic,
buthighly important:
Surviving Divorce Concept 1: Reflect on the past
to make sureyou can eliminate potential regret.
Make sure that you take the time to reflect on
the past andremember the reasons that got you to this state of
mind. Onething you absolutely must avoid is going through a divorce
andregretting your decision. Evaluate, in detail, your reasons
fordivorce and confirm to yourself yet again that divorce is thebest
course of action. This will help eliminate regret...andregret
can be a large factor in determining your chance ofsurviving divorce.
Surviving Divorce Concept 2: Admit to yourself
that, no matterhow your situation got to this breaking point of
wantingdivorce, that you had a hand in it, and plan to improve
yourself.
Even if you know your present spouse is not a
good fit for you,be smart enough to know that you shouldn't waste
the opportunitythat you have right now to improve yourself, for
your own goodin the future. At a time like this when emotions
are runninghigh, there tends to be a lot of soul searching going
on, andthat's a good thing if you want to ensure that you've got
asolid chance of surviving divorce. Realize that you need toimprove
for you, this will only help you in the future.Remember, it takes
two to tango!
Surviving Divorce Concept 3: Remember that your
happiness andplan for surviving divorce should include evaluating
andestablishing a certain level of self-confidence. Having selfconfidence
is absolutely critical to surviving divorce becausewithout it,
fear usually will win out and your situation willnot improve.
Even if you get divorced but you don't evaluateyour own level
of self confidence in the hopes of improving it,you may be in
for a rough time after divorce. If you want asure-fire way to
feel good about surviving divorce, do yourselfa favor and get
your self-confidence in line.
If your overall confidence and desire to start
over with yourlove life support making a change, you're off to
a good start inmaking a smart decision about whether to divorce
or not.
Surviving Divorce Concept 4: Get your finances
in a row andunderstand that your life will change most likely
from amonetary perspective. This is a major portion of the survivingdivorce
equation, especially for women in divorce. A lot oftime, women
in divorce situations have to deal with financeissues and they
fear going out on their own because they've hadfinancial support
previously. Still, this concept is not genderspecific and can
resonate with anyone because, one some level,your life will change
financially as a result ofdivorce...that's a guarantee.
In order to make sure your chance at surviving
divorce is high,you need to be willing to trade potential financial
loss to geta divorce. If you're ready to do this, maybe you're
ready toreally take the big step.
Surviving Divorce Concept 5: Understand the true
value of using"projection" to ensure surviving divorce.
This is a terrificexercise to go through when you're faced with
a divorce decisionand want to ensure you've got a great chance
of survivingdivorce. "Projection" simply means looking
to the future andactually imagining what your life will be like
once you'redivorced. And, if you're smart, you'll see multiple
scenarios ofwhat your life will become after divorce and you'll
be able topin down which factors lead to each one of those scenarios.Then,
choose the scenario you'd like to actually live, and takethe necessary
steps needed to implement those factors. This oneof the most important
practices to ensure that you're chances ofsurviving divorce are
high.
Surviving divorce is a difficult thing but it
can easily beaccomplished if you plan, reflect, think, and execute
based onyour own goals and needs.
About the author:Author of "A Practical Guide To Deciding
Whether Or Not To Get ADivorce", the eBook recommended by
counselors to thier clients.Proven "Actions Items" to
help you decide! Deciding onDivorce Surviving Divorce
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