| Cameron
Teone
What do you do when you just went through a bitter
divorce and now you find yourself on the single scene once again??
Where do you start?
How do you meet women again?
How do you approach beautiful women? It seems
that things have changed so much. How do you once again start
over?
In my line of work, I get all sorts of clients
and inevitably some of the men are divorced guys looking to work
the single scenes, except they have no idea where to begin. It's
been a quite a while since they hit the bar scene with the fellas
and approached girls and now, what perhaps used to be second nature,
feels a bit foreign.
It seems as if the times have changed so much.
Some guys feel like they got lucky to meet the girl they married
the first time as they were never very good at attracting women
to begin with. Oh, what will they do now??
Now, I have to be honest with you. I have never
been divorced. Then again, that may be because I have never been
married either. My job is to help guys from all walks of life
meet women, build attraction, and have a successful dating life.
My job is to help men attract women. Whether you plan to get married
again or not is none of my business.
If you have been out of the scene for a while,
you need to become acclimated into the single scene once again.
Now, I am going to lay out a specific 10 Step
program to enable you to effectively join the single scene again
and start attracting more women.
***STEP 1- Attitude readjustment***
It all starts with your ATTITUDE. This is the
first step!
You have to make a decision. I can give you all
sorts of dating advice but it won't do you any good until you
decide that you want to get this part of your life handled.
So you have a choice: You can either sit there,
bitch and complain about how the times have changed, about how
it's been so long since you have done the single thing, and what
a shame it is, OR you can make a decision NOW to attract a great
woman (women) in your life. If you are reading through this article,
perhaps you have already made this decision!
Take this timeto celebrate your freedom! Chances
are if you were married for 15 or 20 years, you were institutionalized,
sort of like the character of "Brooks" from the classic
movie "The Shawshank Redemption." If you've seen the
movie, you know exactly what I am talking about. The "Brooks"
character would have chosen to stay in that prison under inhumane
conditions rather than celebrate his freedom with uncertainty.
When you were married, things made sense even
if the circumstances were atrocious. Now, things suddenly do not
make sense and this is a scary feeling.
You must realize that this is a temporary state,
and it will pass. You're not the first guy to get divorced, nor
the last.
In fact 60% of marriages end up in a divorce in
some parts of the country so you're in pretty good company.
Adjust your attitude. Start to realize that you
have just opened the door to a world of new possibilities. Celebrate
your new found freedom and the door that has just been opened
to new possibilities.
***STEP 2- Burn your old clothes. Time for a makeover***
Look, I know it's possible that you were already
a sharp dresser. Anything is possible!! We live in a country that
lets Geraldo on TV! In my experience, however, most men have no
clue how to dress properly and when it comes to married men, forget
about it.
In my experience, most married men I meet, have
settled into a comfort zone where the sweatshirt over plain pants
look has become their calling card. If you are back on the single
scene, it'd help if you started to once again take care of your
appearance. It's time to a grab a few new outfits, a pair of new
shoes, and do some grooming.
I realize that this sounds basic but you'll be
appalled to know how often I meet guys who do not take care of
their basic grooming. Just make sure your hair (don't care if
it's completely shaved or in a pompadour,) your beard/goatee,
looks like it's been cared for.
Good Breath is on top of this list. The problem
is most people including many of your buddies won't tell you that
you have bad breath. They'll just run away. Our first step is
to make certain that we are taking care of the basics.
Change the way you dress, start grooming, and
look presentable. Look like you know you're in demand!
***STEP 3- Start Approaching***
Make an effort to approach more women and grow
your social circle. You have to start socializing more with women
as well as more men. Most married couples hang out with other
married couples, talk about babies, fight over bills, and watch
reruns of Law & Order.
It's needless to say that regardless of the conversational
topics, this particular social circle isn't going to introduce
you to as many single women as you'd like to meet. Hence, it'd
be very wise to start creating new social circles that include
single people, or at the very least, people in relationships who
are still in touch with the single world.
You must realize that this takes some effort on
your part. You ought to start initiating conversations with more
women everywhere you go. Most people immediately think of going
to bars and clubs. Depending on your age, taste, likes and dislikes,
you may not be a bar/club guy. That's certainly understandable.
You can still make an effort to approach women
during your daily activities which could range from supermarket
and coffee-shops to various classes, clubs, and the gym.
You also may want to give online personals a try.
I'd only advise you to utilize the personals as a supplemental
means to meet women, not as your only means to meet new women.
***STEP 4- Start exercising again***
I am being a bit presumptuous here. If you're
doing it already, that's fantastic. Most married guys start growing
horizontally. Exercise will make you FEEL better physically, emotionally,
and mentally. It will also boost your self-confidence which is
of the utmost importance! As a bonus, joining a gym will enable
you to meet new people, women as well as men. (Not to mention
that it will improve your physical appearance.)
This is not a ploy to pick up women. You'll feel
better because of it!
***STEP 5- Establishing New networks***
Look to create a network of single friends who
really enjoy going out and meeting women. Nothing would probably
encourage you more to actually enjoy going out and meeting women
more than surrounding yourself with a few guys who like to have
a good time and socialize.
You're not going to meet too many women spending
time around introverted folk who like to sit at home and play
card games. If you are going to hang with guys like that, then
make sure you balance it with hanging with a few animals who want
to hit the outdoor life.
OK, we are half way there. Part 2 of this article covers the
next 5 steps that will enable you to attract desirable women.
Please continue to the next section. Wishing you the best, Cameron
Teone. Copyright (c) 2007 Cameron Teone - Article Directory: http://www.articlecube.com
Cameron Teone has taught dating seminars and workshops
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