| Christina
Rowe
Where do you go to meet someone new? Years ago
it seemed like singles bars were the only permanent meeting place.
They were open every night, but they were also pressure cookers
that were often fueled by too much alcohol. Now there is another
spot this is always open: the World Wide Web. The Internet provides
many interesting options. As online dating has gained popularity
it has shown itself to be more convenient than singles bars, with
more possibilities as well.
I joined Eharmony.com. This dating service makes
you fill out a lengthy questionnaire aimed at matching you and
a mate. The match is made on the basis of several critical components.
I liked E-harmony for several reasons. One was their policy of
not posting your information and photo for just anyone to see.
Your data is sent only to specific matches.
Another popular site is Match.com. Though I made
no dates through them, I perused their site, and saw how they
worked. They seem to have a greater selection of potential dates.
At Match.com you can browse and look at available singles’
pictures and profiles. You do the choosing using the posted information.
My cousin has had some success there, meeting
a man, and starting a serious relationship with him. Hers is one
of many Internet success stories. I know of a woman who was recently
divorced and developed a friendship online with a man from Scotland.
They exchanged emails and photos, and soon their feelings deepened.
He sent her two airline tickets to Scotland, one ticket for her
and one for a friend. Although hesitant, she went. She fell in
love. After returning to the United States she felt that she could
no longer go on without this man. She flew back to Scotland and
they were married. By the way, he is a millionaire and they live
in a castle! They just recently celebrated the birth of their
first child. So you see, fairy tales do happen!
For some nothing will do but to meet someone the
old-fashioned way —in person. One can stay away from singles
bars, but still find people with similar interests, by joining
a club or taking classes. Even if the right person isn’t
there, you will still have a lot of fun. The workplace can be
an avenue for romance, though you must mind any given job site’s
rules on socializing.
Though many of us dread the singles bar, they
can be tolerable, and even good places to go if you take along
some friends. Go to one where there’s dancing. You may meet
someone worthwhile. It does happen!
Last but not least, don’t be too shy about
having friends or family match you with someone.
Whatever option you choose; don’t get discouraged.
It takes time. If you have the patience you will be rewarded with
an array of choices.
Christina Rowe is the author of the new book "Seven Secrets
To A Successful Divorce-What Every Woman Needs To Know".
Find out the survival skills that will save you time, money and
heartache during your divorce. For your free Secrets of Divorce
newsletter go to www.divorcesurvivalskills.com
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