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Lee Dennis
When a marriage ends in divorce dating again can
be quite uncomfortable… In the beginning. After having been
out of the dating scene for possibly years you may be somewhat
intimidated about getting back in the game. Like anything else
though, with a little of practice it won't seem quite so intimidating
to you. The unknown is always uncomfortable or alarming, but do
not let this stop you. Your confidence will develop with even
just a little practice. Be patient and remember practice makes
perfect.
You'll first want to prepare yourself mentally
to increase your social life and to take new risks. Talk to those
you're close to about your plans to begin dating. They can be
a great source of information and support, and may even know someone
you might like to meet. These friends will also be a great resource
for finding out where to go to meet people locally, or on the
Internet. Don't be embarassed to pick their brains on matters
you're not yet caught up on. This will make it less intimidating.
To give yourself a boost, take on a positive attitude,
and catch yourself whenever you start feeling negative. In the
early stages refrain from being overly self-critical. Realize
that everybody comes with a little baggage, mental scars, or other
issues that make us all a little shaky about ourselves on occasion.
On a first date it's a good idea to plan on meeting
in a public place. This allows both parties to feel more comfortable
as personal safety is removed as an obstacle.
If the date goes well take the time to get to
know each other gradually over time. There really is no rush.
At this point you've been down this road before so you know what
you want and don't want in a person and relationship. Now is the
time to discover whether or not these characteristics are present.
A word of caution here, do not be in a hurry to
introduce whom ever you're dating to your family. Doing this only
adds unnecessary pressure to your growing relationship. When the
time is right to exchange family greetings it will feel like a
natural part of the process.
By taking time to get to know potential partners,
and allowing yourself to become comfortable with each other before
you know it you will have lost all of those initial dating jitters.
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