| James
Walsh
Even if one tries hard not to be cynical about
the institution of marriage the drastic increase in divorce rates
makes one just that-cynical. Why one wonders do marriages fail
so often now? What did our parents’ generation do that was
better or did they just hold on at any cost? Is today’s
generation far more honest about relationships and unwilling to
sweep problems under the carpet?
The rate of divorce in the States went to an incredible
50% of marriages. After al the reasons one gets married remain
largely the same-love, companionship, children etc. What then
goes wrong? Are we a less tolerant people now or just willing
to call a spade a spade?
Women Empowerment and Divorce
One cannot over look the fact that the incredible
empowerment that women enjoy today makes them less likely to suffer
a bad situation. Today women know what they want, why they want
it and how to get it. Being “empowered” they do not
take lightly to marriage coming in the way of their dreams and
desires. Earlier if a woman was being ill treated by her husband
she put up with it as there was no way out as she was financially
dependent. Today, she shows him the door and gets on with life.
However, there is a flip side to women’s empowerment where
they may not be willing to make even the necessary compromises
that go to make any relationship work. This it’s my way
or the highway stance is not exactly conducive in any environment
and more so in a marriage.
Individualism and Divorce
Today we live in an individualistic and materialistic
society. It is how we grow up and what we perceive. The whole
purpose of life is to push one’s self to achieve and be
better than the rest. This competitiveness makes us less tolerant
and giving and unwilling to make allowances for others.
Marriage is about “us” and not only
“I”. A successful marriage does not mean we have to
give up being individuals but we need to know when to let up and
share. We are so obsessed with our individual goals that we have
no room to encourage a partner’s. The need to have a better
car, a better house, a better job leaves us with little time to
have a better life.
The world is moving at an incredible pace and instant gratification
is what the average person seeks. If something seems to be going
off track it seems simpler to move on rather than making things
work.
Relaxed Divorce Laws
Laws are changed and altered to keep up with current
times which are what makes them more effective. As if to reflect
the changing times modern divorce laws are far more relaxed which
make it much easier to get divorced and move on. Even the heir
to the British throne is divorce and remarried and can still be
King. This is indeed a reflection of how times have changed. People
are not ostracised by religion or prevented from remarrying and
this acceptance has made divorce easier to handle.
Conclusion
Perhaps the institution of marriage itself will
soon become passé. Already people get married at a later
age than ever. This also makes them very set in their ways and
unwilling to compromise. Couples who marry at a later age find
it difficult to adapt and soon seem to head foe splitsville.
In the meantime one cannot deny that divorce leaves
behind a lot of heart ache and emotional issues which can scar
people for life. It is after all at the end of the day our relationships
that are our mainstay. Everything said and done when we’re
done with the rat race outside it is a happy home with a loving
companion that we seek to return to and ironically it is that
very rat race that makes it difficult to have that happy home.
Whatever the reasons for divorce becoming so rampant
it is a reality that we cannot escape from. Whether it is a passing
phase in the history of man or here to stay, we will have to just
wait and watch and probably get divorced in the process!
Article Directory: http://www.articlecube.com James Walsh is
a freelance writer and copy editor. If you would like more information
on how to get a quickie Divorce see www.quickie-divorce.com
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