| Alex
Fir, Sat Dec 10th
Whether you consider yourself together or 'two'- gether, youwill
both find a wonderfully comforting yet exciting familiaritywith
each other. Familiarity never truly spawns into contempt,as the
saying goes. Relationships that exist without creativityand satisfaction
are the kinds that spawn contempt. Doing thingstogether with your
spouse doesn't mean that you become dependenton each other.
Dependence is absolutely the worst thing for your relationshipand
will ultimately lead to an unhealthy co-dependency. Completeindependence
is not altogether good for a marriage either. Ifyou are so focused
on your own independence, you can never be atrue couple. Interdependence
is what almost all successfulcouples have been able to achieve
and maintain. Interdependenceis simply a reciprocal relation between
interdependentindividuals. It is possible to achieve such a balance
in arelationship and it is the best way to have a respectful andsuccessful
partnership with your spouse.
Start to think about everything you do as an activity oropportunity
for the both of you. If you have to go out of townon a business
trip, take your spouse with you. While you're awayor even while
you're at home together, take turns reading thenewspaper aloud
in bed. Make sure you read the funnies to eachother and you must
use appropriate voices for differentcharacters!
Take entire days together to go out and explore
new things. Buya book that lists all of the attractions in yours
andsurrounding areas. Visit each place that neither one of you
hasbeen to before. Go on treasure hunts to places like fleamarkets,
auctions, antique shops, second-hand stores, garagesales, craft
sales and church rummage sales. These are greatplaces to pick
up gifts for your spouse that you save for alater date.
While most people know about 'his and hers' items
like bathrobesand towels, there are a number of other items that
can beenjoyed together as 'couples' items. Try getting matchingmotorcycles
along with matching T-shirts. Have matching his andhers overnight
bags, coffee mugs, bicycles, cell phones, cars,holiday ornaments,
tennis rackets, rocking chairs and evenmatching carved pumpkins
on Halloween.
Go shopping together and work on finding something
for him andsomething for her. Go to a bookstore and select a book
that youknow your spouse will like and have him or her do the
same foryou. Go to a music store and select a CD you know that
yourspouse will like and again, have him or her do the same for
you.Find other ways to apply this same concept to other specialtystores.
At the beginning of each month, sit down together
as a coupleand review your calendars. Make all of your plans that
you willdo together before working in all of your other appointments
andcommitments into your schedule. Your relationship commitmentsshould
always come first and be your top priority. Couples whokeep their
relationship first in their lives have the mostenviable relationships.
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