| John
Furnem
As most married couples know, there are natural
ups and downs in every relationship, this article does not discuss
the regular every day stress related fights and arguments between
couples but a more serious situation where both partners are seriously
considering divorce or are even at a point of starting a divorce
procedure.
Some people do not believe that a broken marriage
can be saved, I do not think that this is true, but then again
I don’t think that anything is impossible, we all know numerous
examples of people who have achieved incredible things, sometimes
even in desperate situations, so I believe that we humans are
capable of almost anything, and I definitely think that saving
a marriage or relationship, and preventing a divorce are possible.
The first step in preventing an upcoming divorce
is to strengthen the individual, this means that each of the partners
needs to go into a phase of self healing and self rebuilding,
it is this stage that will have the most effect on the way the
partners communicate in the near future. This is the reason that
the process of rebuilding your individuality is important, its
basically the way that you will position yourself in front of
your partner, and it will allow you to reshape your character
and the way your partner looks at you.
This is why the first real step should be rebuilding
ones inner strength and power, to redefine anything that is of
importance to you life, and decide that you are your own person,
that whatever may happen to you, successful or failing to save
you marriage or anything else you set out to do, you will be determined
to be happy, and healthy in your life, that the source of happiness
and joy is exterior to relationships and accessible to everyone
at any time, this kind of positive thinking will bring results
once you believe in it and practice it daily, even a few times
a day.
It may sound strange to you at this point, but
this is the most important thing you can do for yourself at the
moment, your partner is drifting away, and the last thing you
want to project is a feeling of desperate need and dependency,
this is probably a source of trouble in your relationship anyway,
the work should focus on your own, independent happiness, as you
work on that and take the time to reflect on the things that are
your absolute top priority you will notice that this inner strength
can help you reshape not only your character but also your relationships.
Another benefit from this inner self focus is
dedicating your thought power and motivation towards getting better,
towards happiness, joy and health. The danger of letting the power
of the breakup and upcoming divorce events drag you down and obscure
your mind from any positive thought and progress is what you should
avoid, and what better way to do that than focus on getting better,
stronger and healthier?
A good relationship is comprised of two, healthy
and happy partners, try and remember this as you work to strengthen
your inner self. Good luck.
Article Source: http://www.article-matrix.com John Furnem is
a dot com veteran, specializing in personality psychology he has
written articles and held workshops/seminars for stress management
and divorce prevention. John currently writes Stop Divorce Tips
and Advice articles.
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