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Parenting through divorce while working on a new
marital and step-parenting relationship may bring thoughts that
life would be simpler if their former spouse were not in the picture.
Families attempt to freeze out a biological parent creating loyalty
conflicts for their children. Studies indicate that children need
both their parents and would suffer more when a parent is no longer
a part of their lives. Step families usually work better when
children are able to continue relationships with their outside
parent. Children usually adjust to different households, lifestyles,
values, and rules much easier than they can adjust to losing a
parent.
When the relationship with the absent parent is
protected, most children are better able to accept a stepparent.
A stepparent can be someone in addition to a natural parent, not
a replacement for that parent.
Children generally adapt to change quite well;
however, the more changes they experience, the more difficulty
they have coping. Prioritize what things need to change. The most
critical area in which to limit change is in the children's relationships
with their natural parents. A good relationship with a parent
provides children with a buffer from stress. Continue to spend
some time alone with each of your children. Reassure your children
that they can continue their relationships with their absent parent
without threat of being disloyal to you.
Maintain consistency in rules and discipline and
retain as many familiar everyday routines as you can. If possible,
look for a way that children can remain in the same school for
at least a year and continue to see their old friends.
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