| Karl
Augustine, Fri Dec 9th
An uncontested divorce is the most common type
of divorce. An uncontested divorce is a divorce that occurs when
there are no disagreements between spouses over divorce related
issues like custody, finances, living arrangements, spousal support,
child support, etc. An uncontested divorce can be an easy way
forpeople to get divorced without the hassles of a legal struggle
and undue wear and tear on emotions.
But, you may not be ready to seriously consider
uncontested divorce if you're just thinking about it.
Thinking about an uncontested divorce can mean
a variety ofthings from a psychological perspective...it could
mean that you are really on the brink of divorce.
It could also mean that you're feeling frustrated
and just wantto end things as fast and quietly as possible. If
this is the case, you may want to make sure that you aren't just
being lazyand you should examine your reasons for divorce first
before you go any further.
"Does it mean I am really ready for divorce
just because I amstarting to think about an uncontested divorce?"
Maybe, maybe not.
Here's a few things you might want to think about
before going onto next steps with regards to an uncontested divorce,
just to make sure that you're really ready to go through with
it.
Uncontested divorce situation 1: You're thinking
about anuncontested divorce because you want out but you aren't
sure ifyour spouse is ready to call it quits.
This can be tough if you aren't careful. The main
point of anuncontested divorce is to have both parties agree on
things. Ifyour spouse doesn't even know that you're thinking about
gettinga divorce, mentioning an uncontested divorce may result
in an explosive discussion.
Uncontested divorce situation 2: You've both agreed
that you'dlike a divorce, but haven't really clearly defined why,
you just know you both feel ending the marriage is best.
Maybe there's a chance to make your marriage work!
Don't be toohasty. If you can't clearly define why you and your
spouse want to end your marriage, you're acting on emotion rather
than ahealthy combination of emotion and logic. Sit down, think
it through and have a detailed discussion around all of thedetails.
But, be careful...this can be a volatile situation
if youhaven't talked everything through and mutually agreed on
howyou'll actually implement your divorce decision to have anuncontested
divorce.
If one of you is more demonstrative than the other
or is usuallythe person who drives the decisions, that sense of
control may carry over into the discussion of the terms of the
uncontesteddivorce.
Uncontested divorce situation 3: You both agreed
that you'd likea divorce (and you both know why), and you've successfully
talked about and agreed on all of the details regarding theuncontested
divorce.
Although it can be a sad situation most of the
time, sometimes adivorce is actually a good thing unfortunately.
If you and your spouse have amicably decided to part ways and
can continue on as responsible happy adults, then an uncontested
divorce can be aneasy way to sever the relationship and all legal
obligations.This is the best situation to be in if you're looking
for an uncontested divorce...it should be simple to finish from
thispoint.
Lots of people think about uncontested divorces
and never gothrough with getting one because they actually work
things out...and that's a great thing! And, some people think
they wantan uncontested divorce but haven't agreed on the details
andterms, they're just looking for the fastest way to end the
marriage. If this is the case, the relationship can turn from
being amicable (and each party thinking they want a divorce) tobeing
nasty and a resulting tug of war ensues with each person striving
to get what they feel they deserve out of the divorce...and this
can lead to a drawn out negotiation which certainly is not an
uncontested divorce.
Be smart when you're considering an uncontested
divorce...make sure that you're really ready to go through with
it. Don't let the term 'uncontested' fool you, an attorney can
ethically and legally on represent one of the married parties.
But, if you and your spouse can truly be amicable and truthful,
an uncontested divorce can be easy.
About the author:Karl Augustine Author of "A Practical Guide
To Deciding WhetherOr Not To Get A Divorce", the eBook recommended
by counselors tothier clients. Deciding onDivorce, Uncontested
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