| Triston
Huntsmin
I believe that divorce is one
of the biggest epidemics in our current society that isn't being
recognized or treated as such. As a marriage and family therapist,
of course divorce is something that I am passionate about because
it is something that I am spending my life to fight against. I
am not ignorant enough to believe that I will see all cases of
divorce end during my lifetime, nor am I ignorant enough to believe
that all divorce cases even should be prevented. I am, however,
perhaps ignorant in my belief that it is crazy for people considering
divorce to get advice from a divorce attorney.
Now, most of you are thinking I'm crazy. Who would
go to a divorce attorney for advice about their failing marraige?
Many people, unfortunately. I had no idea until I began working
with marriages and families in crisis just how many individuals
and even couples were seeking refuge and advice with their divorce
attorney.
I was overwhelmed by my new knowledge for one
primary reason. Have people considering getting a divorce forgotten
that a divorce attorney is the very last person who will be concerned
with them repairing a broken marriage? A divorce attorney makes
a living helping married people get divorced while getting as
many benefits from the divorce as possible. So why would any nearly-divorced
person go to a divorce attorney in hopes of fixing their marraige?
Beats me.
My advice to anyone struggling in their marriage
is to make an appointment to visit a professional counselor or
a marriage and family therapist. The core reason why I suggest
this is because in general, counselors and therapists are people
who deeply want to see marriages and families restored rather
than torn apart. If I am looking for someone to help me fix my
car, then it is far wiser to get help from an individual who actually
believes that cars can be fixed, right? Of course. The same is
true with marriage. Do not go for help to someone who believes
that marriages should end easily and for any reason at all. Go
instead to a professional who is trained in giving you wisdom
about ways to make your relationship work.
A divorce attorney is great for people who are
sure that divorce is the option they are choosing. If, however,
you are still unsure of your options and if you are still hoping
for healing in your marriage, then a divorce attorney is the last
person you should see.
Article Source: http://www.article-matrix.com Triston Huntsmin
is a marriage and family therapist who hates seeing people get
caught up with poor advice from a divorce attorney. See www.divorceattorneytimes.info
for more.
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