| Jerald
Young
Recovery from divorce requires us to make a "leap
of faith" into an unknown future. Since we haven't done it
yet, we don't really know for sure how it will turn out. Our personal
source of hope gives us the courage to move forward in the face
of the uncertainty.
But the hard question is, "Where can I go
to find my personal source of hope?"
Source 1: Hope Can Be Found within Ourselves
A person's "source of hope" might include
an implicit trust in him or herself. People use their belief that
they have the ability to handle anything that they may encounter
to give them courage to face their recovery from divorce.
Source 2: Hope Can Be Found in Others
Hope can also be found in a belief in the trustworthy,
good intentions of their friends. They have experienced what they
consider "trustworthy" treatment in the past, and subsequently
trust others to protect them from harm and help them as they face
the challenges of divorce recovery.
Source 3: Hope Can Be Found in Our Philosophical
Belief Systems
Still others' seek their hope in more intellectual
areas, like philosophy. We all have been exposed to explanations
about what life is all about. Sometimes it seems to "fit
with our experience" and therefore "makes sense"
to us. We may not have called it "my philosophy of life,"
but that's what it is, nonetheless. Search that philosophy for
its basis for hope, especially where it addresses the reasons
for being optimistic about life. It will almost always hold out
hope for making future transitions, including divorce recovery.
Source 4: Hope Can Be Found in Our Religious or
Spiritual Beliefs
Some find hope in their spiritual beliefs. It
may be in an organized religion. It may be a non-religious, spiritual
belief in the existence of good in this world. A strong spiritual
belief enables us to "act as if" good is there waiting
for us in all unknown future situations.
Source 5: Hope Can Be Found in Nature
Others find a basis for hope in the infinite complexity
and beauty of nature. Some find it in the cosmos. Others find
it in the microscope. Others find it in flowers, lakes, mountains,
oceans. I had a client whose divorce recovery had been stuck for
four years. Then she spent a week enjoying the woods of New Hampshire.
When she returned the logjam that had been preventing her from
moving on had broken up, and she was able to make a "miraculous"
divorce recovery in the next four weeks.
Which Source to Use DOES NOT Matter
However, what does matter is using a source of
hope that makes sense to you personally! When faced with making
our recovery from divorce, we must FIND our source of hope and
USE it! There we will find the strength to know things will work
out for the good. The result is courage to confront the demons
that threaten our successful recovery from divorce.
Whatever the source of hope that resonates within
you, you must use it. That is the key to dealing with the unknowns
of recovery from divorce.
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go to www.SmoothDivorceRecovery.com/Stress I am Jerald Young and
I help divorced clients return to the mainstream of life with
renewed hope, unfettered by the chains of anger, resentment, and
shame that accompany divorce.
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