| Jerald
Young
Divorce recovery often leaves us feeling lost, off-balance, disoriented,
and vulnerable. Sometimes we feel as if we are careening off course
and out of control. Our personal principles can give us confidence
by making sure we stay on course in our journey to a successful
and satisfying life after divorce.
1. Divorce Recovery is Like Driving Down the Interstate in a
Fog
An image that made sense to me when I was neck-deep in the divorce
recovery process was driving down the interstate in a dense fog.
A very real question for me was, "How can I make sure I stay
in the road and not drive into the ditch?" Fortunately, superhighways
have a way of reminding us when we are straying off course - those
rat-a-tat-tat bumps on the side of the road that warn us we are
getting too close to the shoulder. Our personal principles perform
the same function - warning us when we are veering off course.
2. An Example of How Your Personal Principles Can Help Your Recovery
from Divorce
A client of mine was having trouble negotiating the choppy waters
of life after divorce. Some of his issues were: "How should
I deal with my ex?" "What do I do about dating?"
"How should I manage the proceeds of the sale of my Soho
loft?" These, and other related issues, were driving him
crazy. He had trouble focusing on one without another wedging
its way into his head. Metaphorically, he was trying to go forward
in a fog. When asked what his primary personal principles were
in dealing with this time in his life, he responded, "The
welfare of my two children." With that, the fog lifted. He
realized that using his primary principle of "what's best
for my kids" as a compass gave him clarity for traveling
the blurry road of divorce recovery.
3. The Promise - You Can Make a Successful Recovery from Divorce
Because You Have Stability of Direction
The good news is, we all carry a compass we can use when lost
and vulnerable. It will guide us through the maze of divorce recovery
with a true feeling of stability and control. That compass is
our set of personal principles. Our principles give us a way to
determine if our decisions and actions are right or wrong for
us in this specific divorce recovery situation. All we have to
do is ask, "Is this consistent with or is it against my principles?"
The answer will set you free to travel the murky waters of life
after divorce.
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by the chains of anger, resentment, and shame that accompany divorce.
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